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Waaaargh

posted by [personal profile] selkie at 09:01pm on 12/07/2005
....Start New Job promptly on Monday, or call with regrets due to an act of G-d and stay with spouse for a family funeral out of state, whenever that may be? (It's not a Jewish funeral, and apparently the process can take days.) I didn't know the deceased very well, but I feel like my place is with my future spouse.

On the other hand, I realise quite well that it's horribly gauche even with extenuating circumstances to call out on one's first day.

Gaaaaah, what should I do?
Mood:: 'confused' confused
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posted by [identity profile] copperbadge.livejournal.com at 01:13am on 13/07/2005
Is the actual funeral on Monday? I haven't much experience with funerals, but I think the family would understand if you went down for the memorial service only.

You could call your new employer and lay the problem before them, too. Let them know now that there's been a death in the family -- they are YOUR family or soon enough will be, in a sense -- and tell them you're uncertain what to do.

I mean, I think it would be worse to go on Monday and then not on Tuesday, you know? Then it's not really skipping one's first day as much as it is pushing back the start date.
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posted by [identity profile] darthrami.livejournal.com at 01:22am on 13/07/2005
S'just a memorial service, actually - we don't do funerals at all. I'm just not sure when it'll be; my grandmother died on a Thursday and was buried on a Monday, and my brother on a Saturday, and not buried until the following Friday. So I have no idea at all what it'll be - that's most of the problem.
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posted by [identity profile] copperbadge.livejournal.com at 02:15pm on 13/07/2005
*pets and hugs* that's always the issue, isn't it. What to do and when to do it, and everyone feels a bit lost anyway...
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posted by [identity profile] lonespark.livejournal.com at 12:18pm on 13/07/2005
My thought is also that pushing back the start date is often ok, maybe even several days. Definitely inform job people of situaltion.
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posted by [identity profile] autiger23.livejournal.com at 01:28pm on 13/07/2005
I agree with calling the place and letting them know that the date hasn't been set yet, etc. All companies I've ever worked for are extremely understanding about this, and unless they are hiring you because they need you now, now, now they will 99% have no trouble with pushing back your start date a bit, or just working around your schedule.
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posted by [identity profile] la-rainette.livejournal.com at 07:55pm on 13/07/2005
Honestly, I think it's OK to call in and explain. This is not something anyone could have planned ahead for, and I am sure the people at your New Job will understand. They're human beings with families, too.

*hugs and sends much love to both of you*
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