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AHAHAHA My Upbringing Made Me Gay

posted by [personal profile] selkie at 02:55pm on 27/03/2006
... *reads* : So apparently, many women who leave Hasidishe upbringings behind wind up being lesbians. Because segregation between the sexes is so extreme, and begins around the age of -- oh, three, really -- children reared Hasidishe never learn how to form and interpret more complex emotional relationships with members of the opposite sex. They have trouble interpreting 'the signals', and have no context for mixed-sex social interaction or development. A woman who leaves the community is really only able to 'read' women, and is only comfortable with in-depth emotional connection if it is same-sex.

*rolls on the floor DYING OF LAUGHTER* Look, Ma, you made me gay. You really did.


It could also, of course, be the hot sex. I'm absolutely not discounting the hot sex.

But let me tell you how I tried, and tried, and tried to be the way They Want You to Be, and I just couldn't. It was like touching a wall, blindfolded, while speaking French to an Estonian.

My life makes so much sense now!
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posted by [personal profile] sovay at 08:00pm on 27/03/2006
It was like touching a wall, blindfolded, while speaking French to an Estonian.

*steals that image*
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posted by [identity profile] strange-selkie.livejournal.com at 08:22pm on 27/03/2006
Okay. :)
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posted by [identity profile] orange852.livejournal.com at 09:17pm on 27/03/2006
Speaking as a WASP Suburban American Princess, I don't think it's possible to form a complex interpersonal relationship with the opposite sex. I think I never developed the ability to form that complex a relationship with the same sex: they're too much like competition.

Yes, so...male and female, both enemy. One is prize to be tolerated, one is to be fought off. That's just so much healthier than the gay thing.
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posted by [identity profile] lonespark.livejournal.com at 11:32pm on 27/03/2006
I wrote a big fat reply to this and LJ ate it. Oh well. Your evocative simile is apt, and yet, as stated above, it often applies to intimate human relationships in general.
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posted by [identity profile] mortifyd.livejournal.com at 01:23am on 28/03/2006
Wait. So you only become lesbians when you leave?


Thanks for growing up frum; as you leave please drop your Tehillim in the box on the left - pick up your dyke card on the right.
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posted by [identity profile] kraada.livejournal.com at 04:46am on 28/03/2006
On behalf of the guys out there . . . we really are capable of hot sex . . . I'm pretty sure anyway . . .
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posted by [identity profile] lonespark.livejournal.com at 03:33pm on 28/03/2006
Sure...with each other. If we get to watch. Ha!
I kid. You are right. It's part of what makes the language barrier worth crossing. Sometimes. But you're missing so many fun body parts.
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posted by [identity profile] kraada.livejournal.com at 06:27pm on 28/03/2006
You should only be so lucky.

For I assure you, I may have different body parts, but what I have is far from lacking.
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posted by [identity profile] strange-selkie.livejournal.com at 01:01am on 29/03/2006
Could we maybe... not have... this discussion here? Or... like at all?

*scrubs brain with lemon-fresh Clorox*
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posted by [identity profile] kraada.livejournal.com at 10:30am on 29/03/2006
She started it :P
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posted by [personal profile] batyatoon at 02:11am on 29/03/2006
So does this happen to men who leave Hasidishe upbringings behind, too?
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posted by [identity profile] strange-selkie.livejournal.com at 07:26am on 29/03/2006
I don't know, the book didn't say; I mean, from a statistical standpoint I don't know. Every male who's left and isn't a BT that I have talked to, did turn out some variant of gay/bisexual, but that's my somewhat narrow and specific personal experience.
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